I was def curious about how often most RPers even consider Other People’s fun.

I’m so worried about other people’s fun and happiness that my therapist wishes I would just be a selfish asshole once a month.

But I do try to not ignore anyone, and at least acknowledge what others are doing in the scene, if not react to it out right.

I also try to pose something to react or respond to and not make the other player(s) carry all the burden of keeping the scene moving/interesting.

In plot-related RP, I’m always willing to modify or completely drop any super-great-guaranteed-success idea I might have in favor of what’s going to be most collaborative.

In actual practice, the above usually manifests as me being the silliest shit possible and some people have fun with that and others roll their eyes so I hard I can feel it across the country. Can’t please everyone.

I think there is something to be said about having your own fun in order to make fun for other people.

There is, but for the purposes of this thread, we’re assuming you already checked that first box, “I am having fun to begin with.” Then the fun for other people can come in, which is the discussion I’m most interested here.

@bear_necessities said in Other People:

I’m a yes-and person. I do my best to be engaging …

Like so!

I’m a yes-and person. I do my best to be engaging. Like @Yam I enjoy holding the idiot ball and be funny / do a bit or something. And I always try to pass the ball, which I think is something that a lot of people say they do but aren’t really good at? Like if you give me a plot hook, I’m running to give it to the next person vs holding onto it (since I’ve already got a ball, it’s the idiot ball, that’s my ball).

“The player is not having fun to begin with” is kind of a different barrel of fish to shoot.

that’s probably not fun for EVERYONE but it does work.

That part is probably one of the key issues is that fun is not the same for everyone. Part of the collaboration of having fun together is also to identify what is fun for you and also the other person. The more that Venn diagram overlaps, the higher the chance of fun happening, though it still requires efforts from both parties. That’s why communication is incredibly important, even if it can be hard.

I have fielded dozens of ‘why don’t more people want to rp with me’ type questions. I have never fielded "I am not having fun, how can I have fun?’

I mean, I’ve fielded plenty of the latter and fewer of the former. YMMV of course.

@RightMeow IS it important?

I mean, yes? People aren’t going to have fun with you if you aren’t having fun. It comes out in your poses, or in your attitude, or just in the overall tone of things.

To answer seriously, I’m somewhere with Sao and Yam. I’d love to always have a scene setting idea, but that’s not me. What I CAN try to do is engage and respond to whatever my scene partner is putting out there. Try to find something about them or what they are doing to be genuinely interested in. I like to ask questions IC that inspire/require character building - that’s probably not fun for EVERYONE but it does work.

Edit: I looked it up, he was 50.

What do you do in your MU RP to make it fun for other people?

I completely forgot about the books.

There was even a book series about it.

See, Norwood had plenty of people interested! Fucking can happen at ANY age!

Edit: I feel slightly dirty writing this.

@Roz 5’9" character over 30 years old. Playing on the hardest difficulty.

30 is the new 20.

a man

Cringe.

@Dreampipe ancient. dementia. unfuckable.

Why would I want to play myself?

@Roz 5’9" character over 30 years old. Playing on the hardest difficulty.

I’m looking for a man in finance. 5’9’‘, brown eyes, finance, Resource 1, 5’9’'.