@Faraday said in What Is Your Preferred Play Style?:

Hiding information to appease them? Not so much.

Lack of transparancy encourages them.

I think there’s a difference between “lack of transparency” and “privacy” and people conflate the two a lot.

Hiding information to appease them? Not so much.

Lack of transparancy encourages them.

also all husbands.

So that’s where he went.

Are you sure? (Y/N)

Tl;dr steal wives, get paid $$$

I honestly don’t have strong feelings one way or another about private scene listings but for the sake of your argument because boundary-busting creepers love to creep and bust boundaries, I’m pro-removal as well.

Yep, I’m also pro removal of boundary-busting creepers.

Hiding information to appease them? Not so much. Though as mentioned, individuals are welcome to use the hide command:

hide and unhide - Controls whether your grid location shows up on the who/where list and live scene list.

11th hour addition, but I’m team “whatever gets me good RP.”

My IDEAL would be 100% live scenes, all the time, but that’s not realistic for most people (myself included) so most of the time I do distract, where it might be live sometimes but then someone has a meeting or whatever, or is just doing other things and takes 20 minutes to pose. And that works nicely, it’s basically live but a little slower than that. I also think I write better in more live-type scenes. I think it helps me to delve into things more when it’s happening in the moment.

BUT, I know some people who are amazing writers, and all they can do is async. So I will do async with them so that I may bask in their amazingness.

Re: the +where/active scenes debate… I have absolutely been harassed before by people who see I’m scening with someone and make assumptions about what we’re doing, e.g. You Stole My Wife! (I did not steal any wives.) Or “You’re posing there and not for me whyyyyy.” So I’d be pro-removing listings for private scenes. Logs posted are the better gauge for whether a game is actually active anyway.

Buuuuuuut that’s precisely the sort of thing a wife-stealer would say!

Seriously though, I honestly don’t have strong feelings one way or another about private scene listings but for the sake of your argument because boundary-busting creepers love to creep and bust boundaries, I’m pro-removal as well.

You made the most convincing argument.

My IDEAL would be 100% live scenes, all the time, but that’s not realistic for most people (myself included) so most of the time I do distract, where it might be live sometimes but then someone has a meeting or whatever, or is just doing other things and takes 20 minutes to pose. And that works nicely, it’s basically live but a little slower than that. I also think I write better in more live-type scenes. I think it helps me to delve into things more when it’s happening in the moment.

BUT, I know some people who are amazing writers, and all they can do is async. So I will do async with them so that I may bask in their amazingness.

Re: the +where/active scenes debate… I have absolutely been harassed before by people who see I’m scening with someone and make assumptions about what we’re doing, e.g. You Stole My Wife! (I did not steal any wives.) Or “You’re posing there and not for me whyyyyy.” So I’d be pro-removing listings for private scenes. Logs posted are the better gauge for whether a game is actually active anyway.

Personally I always found the “+watch” code from days of yore intensely uncomfortable. Not because I was doing anything truly private (I post most of my scenes anyway), but just because it bothers me feeling like I have someone looking over my shoulder.

Yep yep yep, exactly the same. I’m not a nervous person - I don’t get stage-fright, I’m not bashful about asking for RP, I don’t even mind having people read my logs. But having someone watch my RP live twigs me in a way I can’t put my finger on.

Part of it is that I’m willing to be a lot more vulnerable in private RP, especially if it’s with somebody I’m comfortable with, and letting that out in “private” and then sharing it afterward is a lot different than letting someone uninvolved watch things unfold live. There’s a rawness in the moment of writing something (even if it’s a crazy async scene) that gets lost in logs. I know I’ve read my own logs after the fact and been like “wow, this scene felt a lot more emotional when I was writing it than when I’m reading it.”

Again, I know this is necessary sometimes, it’s just not ideal for me.

@shit-piss-love said in What Is Your Preferred Play Style?:

That just seems like a risky move in a hobby that is already full of “What were you doing in private with THEM?!”.

if anyone pages me that I’m sending them explicit TS poses, you’ve all been warned

don’t threaten us with a good time

Or maybe I’m the only one who likes that. I don’t know.

Oh I’m sure you’re not. My comment about “none of their business” was just in general, not meant to be directed at you. Sorry if that was unclear.

Personally I always found the “+watch” code from days of yore intensely uncomfortable. Not because I was doing anything truly private (I post most of my scenes anyway), but just because it bothers me feeling like I have someone looking over my shoulder. I turn off my “X players watching you” indicator in video games for similar reasons So I’m not going to code anything like that for Ares, but like I mentioned, scene notes should cover the basic need.

But honestly, what people are doing in their private scenes is none of anyone’s business.

Maybe I’m in the minority, but I don’t like being in private scenes. I’d much rather be in watchable scenes, for many reasons… I don’t like adding to the curtain of private scenes, it gives other players something to read during their downtime, and if it’s going to be shared in the end anyway I have no problem with people reading it before it’s done.

I’m not saying that other players shouldn’t be entitled to their privacy, although I can see how my previous post came off like that. My mistake. I was intending to refer to people like me who prefer being in watchable scenes.

Or maybe I’m the only one who likes that. I don’t know.

@shit-piss-love said in What Is Your Preferred Play Style?:

That just seems like a risky move in a hobby that is already full of “What were you doing in private with THEM?!”.

if anyone pages me that I’m sending them explicit TS poses, you’ve all been warned

I just want everyone here to know that I asked this of @tsar and I didn’t even get a PG-13 TS pose let alone an explicit one so I DEMAND JUSTICE.

BAIT
AND
SWITCH

@KarmaBum said in What Is Your Preferred Play Style?:

@tsar said in What Is Your Preferred Play Style?:

if anyone pages me that I’m sending them explicit TS poses, you’ve all been warned

like… personalized right then on the spot or do you have a dispenser…? 'cause i know where to find you and got a week off coming up soon

lol what are you planning on coming to my house and having me recite TS out loud

Either beat poetry or Shakespeare style, please.

WHY WOULD YOU NEED A WHOLE WEEK

to test your commitment

@tsar omg i meant what game to find you on. but WAY TO MAKE IT EVEN WEIRDER

YOU OPENED THIS DOOR YOU SAID YOU KNOW WHERE TO FIND ME AND YOU DO

AND WHY WOULD YOU NEED A WHOLE WEEK UNLESS TRAVELING

@tsar said in What Is Your Preferred Play Style?:

if anyone pages me that I’m sending them explicit TS poses, you’ve all been warned

like… personalized right then on the spot or do you have a dispenser…? 'cause i know where to find you and got a week off coming up soon

lol what are you planning on coming to my house and having me recite TS out loud

if anyone pages me that I’m sending them explicit TS poses, you’ve all been warned

like… personalized right then on the spot or do you have a dispenser…? 'cause i know where to find you and got a week off coming up soon

Random thought, but could Ares benefit from a hybrid of Private & Open scenes? One where people can watch the RP as it’s happening, but it’s closed for additional characters entering the scene. You could call it “Full” or something like that.

Spirit Lake had ‘Watchable’ scenes for a while, which was a tag people could use to make closed scenes viewable to voyeurs. It was a lot of fun, honestly, but the code broke after like every update so I don’t think it felt worth maintaining.

Random thought, but could Ares benefit from a hybrid of Private & Open scenes?

You can use scene notes for this, though it’s mainly used for scenes where it’s open but only for particular characters meeting certain criteria. Per the help file:

Used for open scenes where participation is limited (by quantity, character type, etc.) or other special considerations apply.

But honestly, what people are doing in their private scenes is none of anyone’s business. At the risk of being harsh, I’m disinclined to create coded solutions for people who can’t handle that.